Learning to be Quick to Listen

The purgative way, as profoundly articulated by St. John of the Cross , is the essential first stage of the mystical journey toward union with God. It is a season of profound spiritual stripping, where the soul is invited to detach from the disordered attachments, selfish desires, and sensory distractions that cloud our perception of divine love. While this process can feel like a dark night of the senses, it is not a sign of God’s absence, but rather His active, purifying presence. By allowing the harsh light of truth to reveal our hidden faults and attachments, we begin to die to our old, ego-centered selves, making room for the transformative grace of the Holy Spirit to take root within the quiet depths of our hearts. You can encounter this purgative process through many avenues: the humble practice of daily prayer, the rigorous examination of conscience, the surrender to the small daily crosses of life, and, most powerfully, through the Sacraments of Reconciliation and the Euchari...

It is a tender, undeniable truth of the spiritual life that real healing often hurts before it frees us. In our modern world, we love the idea of immediate peace and spiritual mountaintops, but St. John of the Cross gently reminds us that true intimacy with God requires a deeper, more intentional housekeeping. He calls this initial stage of the spiritual journey the purgative way—a sacred season of active purification where we intentionally hand over our hidden attachments, habitual sins , and the subtle illusions we build around ourselves. Far from being a harsh punishment or a cold legal obligation, embarking on this path through the Sacrament of Reconciliation is the ultimate act of self-care for the soul. It is the moment we step out of the exhausting shadows of our own making and allow the merciful light of Christ to untangle the knots we cannot undo on our own. Stepping into the confessional during this purgative season is like opening the windows of a heavy, closed-up room to le...

The spiritual life is a beautiful, lifelong journey of the heart, and the great Spanish mystics St. Teresa of Avila and St. John of the Cross describe its beginning as the purgative way . Far from being a harsh punishment, this initial stage is actually a tender act of divine mercy. It is the season where God gently untangles our hearts from the messy attachments, bad habits, and superficial distractions that keep us from experiencing His deep peace. St. Teresa compares the soul to a beautiful interior castle that has become cluttered and dusty over time, requiring patient, intentional sweeping. St. John of the Cross reminds us that this purification involves both our active efforts—like establishing a steady prayer routine and practicing self-discipline—and passive seasons where God allows a certain spiritual dryness to test and strengthen our love. It is a time of clearing away the noise so that we can finally hear the whisper of the Beloved. Moving from this purgative stage into t...